- 16 hours ago
The most common question: Jana, may boyfriend ka na ba?
The most common answer: Wala pa po *smile*
The most common reaction & follow-up question: Aysus. Bakit naman? Kelan mo balak magboyfriend?
The most common answer to the follow-ups: Madidistract po ako eh. After board na lang po. (With matching smile ulit)
- 2 days ago
When a girl is in her twenties, the society, especially the elder people, have their own expectations. They expect her to be graceful, to be sweet, to act maturely, to be that “dalaga” they expect her to be.
I’m already in my twenties, 20 years old to be exact. I guess I’m one of the exemptions to those freaking norms. I’m not the exact opposite but I’m not the twenty year old girl that they are expecting.
Last night was the first night of my Lolo’s wake and I was playing card games with some of my cousins and my sister. They’re younger than me, 3 and 6 years younger. I heard some of our relatives wondering why I’m still playing with the kids when I’m a “dalaga” already.
What do they expect me to do? Stay in one corner and grieve or bore myself? Talk to the elder people who I barely know? Sit and stare? I’m not mad but I’m just a little upset and wondering. I may act immature but I can be mature and sophisticated at times. It just depends on the situation. When I’m working I can act professionally. When I’m with my friends and close family I can act freely whatever I want but not to much to extent of being like a 5 year old kid.
I grew up in a small clan. I’m only close to some of my cousins since we only see each other a few times a year. We do not have much of that strong bond, we do not have that strong friendship. I only have that with one or two of them. In this time of our lives, we saw each other again and that bond is being established or reestablished once again. It’s that moment where you miss each other’s company, where you pick up where you left off, where you forget what you are or how old you are and be friends, act like best friends. That’s what Lolo would want to see. To see his grandchildren bond and be close.
For me, I’m not going to let myself be bound by the norms of society. I have my own life. You do not expect everyone to grow up the same way as others. I’m not going to be limited by other’s expectations. I’m not going to defy but I’m not going to be in strict adherence either. Time will come that I’ll act the way they expect me to be but for now, let me.
Spent the whole day at the hospital. Infair ang dami kong natututunan na medical terms. It was a pretty heavy day for the whole fam. Almost everyone was there. Tatz, Tita, Tito, Tita Marivic, Nanay, Lola, and 4 eldest grandchildren (which includes me). We’re on on the critical days already so everyone’s stressed out.
For the better. For the better.
- 4 days ago